Nothing in life is easy and I have learned that in my 21 years of living so far. As a child, I experienced something that changed my life forever but for the better. I was born December 15, 1993 in Florida and a little bit after my birth parents got divorced and after my mother did not want anything to do with my brother and I afterwards. I was only about one when this happened in my life. I lived with my grandmother for while and my father and brother moved away to Michigan. Once my grandma got sick and could no longer take care of me she informed my father to come get me or she would just call Social Services. My dad sold his car and came to met us in Texas to come get me. I look back on these days like I was actually that young going through all this? I mean of course at the time I did not understand but when I finally did, I was just did not know really what to say. Ever since I turned 4 years old, I have been living in Michigan. I always wondered why me? How can you give birth to two children and not care to contact them? There would be times I cried myself to sleep and tried figuring out did I do something wrong. There is not much harm me and my brother could have did to make her act this way. No calls or letters ever came. As a child, you wish for things to constantly happen but as I got older I came to the realization everything happens for a reason. The story gets so much deeper but my point of telling that specific part of that situation is because it had the most impact on me. As you get older, your mentality and way of thinking changes. Situations are looked at different when you begin to mature throughout life. I could sit around all day and cry about this situation but it is not going to change nothing that has already happened. Life goes on. The situation turned for the better though.
In first grade I remember my father meeting an amazing woman that always has cared for me and my brother as her own since day one. She is my mother in my eyes and nobody can tell me different. I have learned to accept my situation as time went it because it is a tough situation. It feels like she toke all the pain away because at a time I thought about what happened all the time and now it is rare. I cannot erase what has happened in the past but I can make it better.
The moral of the story is that everything happens for a reason and never get stuck on the past. I feel like you may not understand what is happening at the exact moment but eventually you will. It toke 16 years before I found out this was for the better. The beginning of my memoir might have some confused because I just tell what happened to me in small details but there is a lesson behind it. I once was told the greatest lessons are learned through pain. I have an amazing father and mother whom I love dearly. I honor my parents because without them I would not be where I am today. I allowed what happened to motivate me in a positive way. The only thing I could really say is I forgive but never forget. I could never hold a grudge because life is too short. She never has to apologize to me but I already accept and forgave a long time ago. You can turn a negative situation into positivity with the right mindset.